Do Your Best and Surrender the Rest

kristina leonardi
3 min readJun 20, 2023


Letting go and trusting the outcome is a key to personal growth and success

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Years ago when I first heard the phrase Do your best and surrender the rest, it was like a huge exhale. It became a major key and mantra for reducing the suffering that came with my then control-freak and people-pleasing tendencies.

We can only do the best we can with where we’re at, and at some point, we must let go and trust that whatever the outcome, it will be exactly as it should and, if necessary, we will learn whatever we need to learn. It’s also a reminder that “perfection is the enemy of good,” as we can never know what the Universe has planned for the bigger picture — and perhaps any mistake, delay, ending or so-called “failure” had a higher purpose that we mere mortals may never comprehend.

This game of life is no joke and not for the faint of heart, especially in such accelerated and rapidly transforming times. And with so many people at different levels of awareness, understanding and perspective, it’s amazing how we can communicate and coexist at all!

So it’s important to be constantly reminded that we are all human, and by definition that means we are NOT perfect — especially when doing things for the first time or venturing into areas where we have deep wounds or have screwed up in the past.

We all gotta get up, dust ourselves off, keep calm and carry on. The more of us who can be accepting of and compassionate toward ourselves and each other, the better chance we have of creating peace and harmony in the proverbial melting pot of our country and planet.

That’s why it’s so important to be the leader of your own life, define what success is for you and be the change you wish to see in the world, i.e., the best version of humanity you can uniquely be.



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Kristina Leonardi is a nationally recognized career and life coach, speaker and author who for over 15 years has empowered individuals to make lasting professional and personal changes aligned with their true passions and talents while fulfilling their role in the world at large.With a holistic and personal growth-oriented approach, she has helped hundreds of men and women over the past decade improve their job performance, enter or re-enter the job force, change careers, better manage their time and stress, and live happier, more meaningful, balanced lives. Her specialty is working with people who feel stuck or are in transition and can help you clarify exactly what you want to do, identify blocks, issues, and patterns in your way, and offer proven ideas, resources, and action steps to get you there.

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