Find Your Way With Feeling
Put one foot in front of the other, following your inner North Star and a formula for success
These days you might feel as if you’re at a crossroads: not wanting to stay the same or go back to the way things were, but not really knowing what lies ahead and having some anxiety and fear about the future and what that might look like. Welcome to the human journey!
But it’s also these days when the crossroads and transitions seem to be intensifying and accelerating … so it’s more important than ever to stop and reflect on where you are now and where you are going — even if you don’t quite know where that is. You want to be in harmony with evolution and where the Universe wants to take you — because the more you resist, the more the discomfort persists.
Most humans don’t like change — and they like the unknown even less — so if you can make friends with both, you can ease any dis-ease. In other words, the more present and accepting you can be of any situation (meaning acknowledging what IS), the less suffering you will endure, the more clarity you will get, and the faster you can determine the next best steps. And then, “put one foot in front of the other.”
And if you don’t know the destination, know what the feeling is you’re looking for. Are your actions bringing you closer to or further away from that desired feeling? Use that feeling as a North Star and heed your body’s wisdom and intuition about where it is pointing you and how you should proceed, if at all.
I also recently learned about a formula for success from scholar/teacher/shaman Serge Kahili King: E = mc2 — r. He borrows from Einstein’s famous version as a way to encapsulate a Huna understanding. (Huna, Hawaiian for “secret,” refers to what Kahili King describes as “ancient wisdom of turning inner knowledge into outer success.”)
The formula means Effectiveness = motivation, concentration and confidence, minus resistance. It’s the “minus resistance” part that I think is key (I’m talking to myself here with my physical clutter issues … but this could mean emotional and mental clutter as well). Perhaps this could help you on your own journey?
I’ve never run a marathon, but I imagine it’s just as much a mental challenge as it is a physical one, if not more so. It’s a great metaphor for life, and these are the themes reflected in this essay. Whatever sojourn or project you embark upon, always remember, as the Chinese proverb says, that “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step,” and be gentle, patient and compassionate with yourself along the way.
And no matter what the results were of the election, it’s important to remember all the ways in which we have POWER which we discussed in this month’s CONNECTING WITH KRISTINA online gathering on Tuesday, November 15. (Click here for some clips and join my mailing list for the next one)
And for a fun tool to keep you motivated and positive along your journey, check out my book Say It To Make It: Affirmations to Empower the Heart, Mind, Spirit and Soul! Watch this video with some of the folks who have it, and read additional reviews and purchase on Amazon here. If you have a copy — thank you! — and please consider writing a review and/or posting on social media with the hashtag #sayittomakeit. Click here for all the IG posts so far, and scroll down to learn more and read what others are saying.
For related thoughts on these topics, read my essay Going the Distance.
BONUS: We can’t do it alone so click here for a heart-warming video I made of the NYC Marathon inspired by the ending of the movie Love, Actually ❤
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Kristina Leonardi is a nationally recognized career and life coach, speaker and author who for over 15 years has empowered individuals to make lasting professional and personal changes aligned with their true passions and talents while fulfilling their role in the world at large.With a holistic and personal growth-oriented approach, she has helped hundreds of men and women over the past decade improve their job performance, enter or re-enter the job force, change careers, better manage their time and stress, and live happier, more meaningful, balanced lives. Her specialty is working with people who feel stuck or are in transition and can help you clarify exactly what you want to do, identify blocks, issues, and patterns in your way, and offer proven ideas, resources, and action steps to get you there.
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