Unity is possible only if we truly make the effort to understand ourselves and each other, regardless of who is in the White House

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It’s been your average week over here in the US. Nothing exciting happening. No big whoop. Just one of the most consequential times in our country, and for the world at large… As I write this (12:15 p.m. on Friday, Nov. 6), there is still no declared winner of our presidential election. But regardless of who ends up in the White House, we can already see that no one is a winner when our nation is as divided as it is.

This means that we as Americans have work to do — no one else can heal our country but you and me, We the People. This is not something that you can outsource to politicians or governments: Understanding, connection, shared humanity, and unity are qualities and “states” of being we each have to manifest within ourselves and among the people in our lives and our communities.

If you’ve been in my orbit for a while, you know I’m always talking about how the microcosm affects the macrocosm and vice versa — so what we are seeing is the divide within each of us as individuals externalized in the collective. In other words, this election is simply the magnifying mirror that is showing us who we are. Therefore it’s up to each and every one of us to find unity, peace and harmony first within ourselves, and then to operate from that place in all our relationships and interactions, especially with people who are of a different mindset, political persuasion, culture, race or religion.

We must open our hearts and minds to those with differing viewpoints and find some common ground, understanding and acceptance. We must dig deep and find out what is really true for us, not what is being poured out relentlessly from one news network, social media channel or any particular publication or politician. We must think and feel for ourselves what it means to be human, and be able to see that in everyone — no matter what “side” they are on. We must put ourselves in the shoes of another and try to see things from their perspective and experience instead of judging, other-izing or demonizing them. We must remember that when you boil it down to the basics, we are all — to varying degrees — striving for similar things and grappling with the same issues. We need to take responsibility for our own healing and not project it onto others, or expect a pill or law or person to do it for us.

The only real win for our nation will be if we take this division as an opportunity to learn how to come together to coexist harmoniously, separate and apart from any government, no matter who is in charge. We are not a political party, we are PEOPLE. I realize this sounds idealistic, but it needs to be the goal, even if it is a long, ugly and painful road getting there. The process of detox and transformation is never pretty or fun, but it is always worth it in the end.

So no matter what happens, hold the ideals of Truth, Justice, Beauty and Goodness as the core concepts and energies that come forth regardless of the outcome or form they take — because what we focus on grows and the Universe works in mysterious ways. Let’s envision and put our energy toward a bright future for everyone, in every city, in every state, and in every country. That means everyone.

The day of the election, prior to any results, I posted this on Instagram:

I have come to understand that this election is perhaps the *least* political I’ve ever experienced. It is simply a reflection of who we have become as a people. In other words, there is much more at stake and going on than meets the eye and we need to come together as AMERICANS and more importantly as HUMANS. 🙌

That is it.

This is the test, so no matter who you did or didn’t vote for and who your friend, family member or neighbor voted for, we are going to have to learn to work it out with each other and find some common ground and connection to build a future we can ALL be proud of and thrive in.

No matter who wins, “othering” and “canceling” will never get us to this shared place of peace and prosperity that we all deserve.

Let’s #focusonunity, PERIODT

’Cause guess what? You don’t need a politician to legislate or mandate understanding, healing and love.

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This essay was published as the introductory note my PGG eNewsletter. (Text CLEARLYKRISTINA to 22828 to join mailing list!)

Looking for more inspiration? This PGG Video of the week asks How you can change the world? And this Instagram post offers a good image for you to visualize and focus on. For something a little more in-depth on what I think we need to do as individuals, check out this podcast style interview with Rick Young of What’s in Your Hand Radio Show.

And in case you missed these, you can read my PGGs that specifically address the current crisis: Quality Control: How to make the best of these times of quarantine and questioning, How to cope with (and benefit from) what you can’t see during the time of corona, United We Stand and Anatomy of Awareness. You can also check out The Pain of Being, which talks about the George Floyd/BLM protests. Feel free to share those links (or any others) with anyone who could benefit.

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Kristina Leonardi is a nationally recognized career and life coach, speaker and author who for over 13 years has empowered individuals to make lasting professional and personal changes aligned with their true passions and talents while fulfilling their role in the world at large. With a holistic and personal growth-oriented approach, she has helped hundreds of men and women over the past decade improve their job performance, enter or re-enter the job force, change careers, better manage their time and stress, and live happier, more meaningful, balanced lives. Her specialty is working with people who feel stuck or are in transition and can help you clarify exactly what you want to do, identify blocks, issues, and patterns in your way, and offer proven ideas, resources, and action steps to get you there.

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